I write this unknowing what the final outcome will be, but I write it anyway. This is straight up, unedited thoughts of the gift of having more.
I heard this statement while driving into work this morning. I don’t know about you but I was never, have never and probably will never be a sales person. Money just doesn’t entice me. Don’t get me wrong, I get that we NEED money and yes it is totally fun to get new stuff or do fun things but I have never had that umph to get out there and sell anything?! For years now it has been extremely hard to focus on the idea of a profit when you run a business. I assume this is why for the last 10 years I have worked for someone else, providing care for those in need and enjoying every moment of it, truly.
Now here we are, several years later and as a mom, wife and women with a strict type “A” personality I needed a new challenge. Well what do you know, that challenge is coming to grips with the fact that I have and run my own business and with that am required to make an income to support my family. That’s a novel idea, but truthfully, a very hard pill for me to swallow.
Having always been an athlete, I spent the majority of my days in the gym, wearing fitness clothes rocking the world of tom boy sort of speak. Fast forward, and now I chuckle because my husband and I have created one of the most head strong “girly girls” I have ever met who loves nothing more then a tu-tu, ballet, make-up, pink and everything girl. Ok, highly irrelevant to current conversation or maybe not so seems my business is surrounded by the idea of fitness and health, but moving on.
As a practicing Christian, I am hard core into the act of giving. We in our household emphasis kindness, and leading by example. So when I entered into the world of business from my passionate world of healthcare to explore a long awaited passion and dream it was unnerving to me to ask for money for my services. I just couldn’t help but think that that broke all of the core values that have been deeply engraved into my being.
This internal struggle has been a work in progress. Over much listening to Dave Ramsey, the business boutique and my girl Rachel Hollis, I have gradually been able to crawl out of my shell, if not at least stick my head out.
That was until today. Today something finally clicked. I chuckle in writing this as, I have heard this phrase over and over and over again, “The more you have, the more you can give…” Then why are we so ashamed at having and wanting more to give away?!
At one time I used to think this was the most selfish statement in the world. As a mother, women and just simply a member of society it was embedded that if you took care of yourself or wanted “more” you were selfish.
I remember in my younger years, having spent so much time in the gym, running races and just being overall active, many people telling me that I was, “into myself for doing these things”. I remember how these words impacted my confidence. I remember clearly not wanting to tell anyone or go with anyone to any of these things because I didn’t want to be any of the names they were calling me.
As a mom, I can’t help but remember the feeling of hearing people talk about “those parents” that would go away without their children, travel or go for a night out and have a sitter or family watch the kids. I distinctly remember hearing people state, “I don’t know how they can do that” or “what kind of parents are they”?
So podcasts, yes the point of this post. The pod cast was talking about money and the discomforts that some folks such as myself have with it. Seeking more has always been uncomfortable for me unless I was doing it for someone else sort of speak.
Today it dawned on me. I give on a DAILY basis. There is never a time where I do not think, let me get that persons coffee, let me pay that toll, let me… you name it. Even when I only have $5.00 left in my budget for the the week, I will often use some of it for something for someone else. This has been embedded in me through the spirit of giving. Then it hit me, if I had more, then I could give that much more. What a novel idea?! The podcast, went on to talk about the people who anonymously pay off layaways on the holidays, or donate cares for charity. Wouldn’t this be great! It was like a light went off! Then I begin to think, how does this relate to everything I do everyday.
I speak this language, every day as I encourage women and mothers to get out of the background with their health. I mean honestly, this exact statement has been what I have spent the last year working on through dedicated self-care and personal growth?!
FILL your own cup first!
I have always used the analogy of the air plane with the oxygen, but I think for now, I’m going to find solace in,
“The more you have, the more you have to give”.